Here are some posts I've written that speak to those who find themselves particularly wounded by accusation:
"Generalized Accusation Disorder:" My Story
"You're Getting Hit With Accusation - The Warning Signs"
"Conviction is Different Than Accusation"
Especially for introverts:
"Why Accusation Is So Debilitating for Sensitive Hearts"
"Were You a 'High-Reactive/High-Sensitive" Introverted Kid?"
"Introverts and the Church: The Pain of Performance and Perceptions"