A provocative interview with Alfie Kohn, author of Unconditional Parenting. The best book on parenting I've read thus far. The book contradicts much of the conventional parenting wisdom that suggests the use of "time-outs," "consequences," and other punishments on the one hand; and gold-stars, bribes, and other kinds of rewards on the other. Even Christian parents who believe in "unconditional love" still fall prey to these commonly-prescribed techniques.
Sabotaging the very results we long for:
Most parents want their children to grow up to be moral, loving and responsible children. However, the very techniques many of us have adopted are not only ineffective, but produce the very kinds of negative results in the long-term that we hope to avoid. These traditional techniques that Kohn exposes can actually yield less-loving, more-selfish children over the long haul.